The “Herbivore Men” or “Grass Eating Men” of Japan, my take on the situation:
Herbivore Man: So, I’m just going to go ahead and do the things I enjoy. Cooking, or playing video games, or collecting miniatures, or sewing plushies, or making pies, or whatever. You, Japanese Woman, are totally welcome to be around for that, but it’s okay if you’re not around as well. Just be sure you understand that I’m not going to make you the center of my life.
Japanese Woman: Oh my fucking gawd!! You’re not going to make me the center of your life and all your attention?!? You’re not going to devote every waking and dreaming action to trying to win my approval and keep my attention?!?
Herbivore Man: That about sums up that part of it, but I think you’re missing the point. It’s not about me ignoring you - it’s about me taking the time and energy to be a fully realized human being who pursues his own goals and interests.
Japanese Woman: That’s the worst thing I’ve ever heard! You’re a terrible man!
Herbivore Man: Your opinion on my validity as a person is not really my concern.
Japanese Woman: 0.o